These days, cheating is becoming a highly popularized hobby for people, especially younger folks who like to ďplay the field.Ē However, those who have been cheated on know that affairs are nothing to be taken lightly. They are extremely damaging blows to most all relationships. When an affair occurs, thatís usually it.
Some people wonder, though, young or old, if itís possible to forgive your other half for infidelities. The fact of the matter is that whether youíve been dating for almost a year, or have been married for a decade or two, the answer remains the same. The truth is that itís complicated.
If you can forgive your lover for cheating on you, there are some complex feelings that still remain, and some problems that can still arise as a result of it all. For instance, you may be able to say you forgive them and stay in the relationship, but the doubt will stay in your mind. The only comfort youíll ever feel in the relationship
again is with complete disclosure of all meetings, plans, conversations, and whatever else applies. No privacy can exist between the two of you. This wouldnít be as much of a feat to accomplish if youíre already married, but if youíre not, the clinginess and watchfulness would be enough to scare off nearly anyone.
In addition, if you can manage to forgive them, truly, it may be because you donít fully love them, youíre too dependent on what they provide to lose them, or you consider yourself good for a freebie in the future. Many could argue that this kind of forgiveness isnít true. You need to be aware that those relationships only end up failing later on down the line.
Now itís not to say itís impossible, but itís unlikely that real forgiveness would be possible. Thereís no harm in trying, though. A few couples may even grow closer together as a result, but the chances of this sort of thing improving a relationship are extremely slim.
If you need some help figuring everything out, remember that thereís nothing wrong with turning to a close and wise friend for some insight into your dilemma. However, if you want to really learn about what happened, try talking to your partnerís lover. Ask them about what happened and try to be as civil and mature about it as possible. If they should act unreasonable or trashy, then talk to your partner instead. Be blunt with your questions and hold out until you feel you have the truth. You can make the best decision in the matter with as much information as possible. Take all of the info you find and compile it together in your head, and you will be able to better assess the situation to come to an honest conclusion.
As a relationship is a personal matter between you and your significant other, no one else has the authority to tell you what is right or wrong. So, whatever you decide, just be sure it makes you happy.