Working closely together five days a week can definitely cause some
enviable heat to ignite between certain co-workers. Sometimes itís a
true chemistry that causes two people to be attracted to each other. It
can also be due to loneliness at home, which can actually happen whether
the person is single or married. In fact, many times marital problems
are the root cause of office romances and affairs. Then, there are times
when two people are drawn to each other and just happen to work at the
To start with, the subject of affairs needs to be
addressed because these are always very bad ideas, particularly between
two married co-workers. Even worse is the idea of an affair between boss
and staff member. These NEVER end well, and when they do, as they WILL,
there will be at least one person out of a job. On occasion, both boss
and staff member can be joining the ranks of the unemployed. If youíre
that staff member and are flattered by the attentions of your boss,
please keep things on a professional level, for your own good.
co-workers should never engage in anything romantic. They can be
friends and enjoy each otherís company, but they should never take that
fatal step of going over the line and falling into bed together. When
the spouses find out, and never doubt that they will, things will begin
to crumble for both of the people that were unfaithful. Actually, there
are at least four people in that scenario that can be hurt.
there are those couples that simply feel drawn to each other and
probably would be attracted to each other no matter how they met. This
connection isnít necessarily a bad one, but it can be a tricky one.
Thatís because these couples may be in a budding relationship that
shouldnít be tested by the dangers of being together TOO much. What
happens when the two of you have an argument? Something like that can
easily have a huge effect on the quality of work that the two of you
deliver at work while the argument lasts.
Something else to think
about is the amount of time youíll be spending with each other. If you
just work for the same company, chances are good that you will be
working in separate offices and will only see each other during breaks
and at lunch. An arrangement like that doesnít put as much stress on a
relationship as working in the same office a desk or two apart from each
other. Just working in the same building can actually enhance a
romantic relationship. You can always meet at lunch for a sandwich and a
quickie to really spice things up.
On the other hand, if you do
work in the same office, it may be beneficial to the relationship for
one of you to try to transfer to another office or department in the
company. Some couples make a professional and personal relationship work
out nicely. If you follow some common sense ground rules, it may work
out that way for you, too.