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[Dec. 26, 2013 10:49PM]
Enhance Self-Esteem To Encourage Self-Improvement
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So let’s go straight into how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self- esteem in a tough
environment? Here are some tips you may want to consider as a starter guide to self-improvement.

Picture yourself as a Dart Board. Now visualize everyone and everything else around you may become
Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in
ways you won’t even remember. Do not let them destroy you, or get the best of you.  So which dart pins
should you avoid?

Adverse Work Environment Dart Pin

Beware of work place politics and the “dog-eat-dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get
ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions
even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you are saddled with a heavy work
load without getting much help or concern from co-workers.  Be like West and stay clear of this mess,
it will ruin your self -esteem. Competition is at high stakes anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete,
but in an atmosphere of healthy competition.

People’s Behavior Dart Pins

Backstabbers, bulldog bullies, brown nosers, complainers,  controllers, exploders, gossip mongers,
naggers, patronizes, scoffers, snipers, and whiners, … all these kinds of people emit bad vibes for
your self- esteem, as well as to your self- improvement scheme.

Changing Environment Dart Pin

You cannot be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility,
adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress
but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible
to it.

Past Experience Dart Pin

It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But do not let pain transform itself into fear. It
might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.


Negative World View Dart Pins

Look at what you are looking at. Do not wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building
self- esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of even the worst situations. 

Determination Theory Dart Pins

The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits
(genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse,
the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure,
it does not mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never
have to encounter the same mistakes.  

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being
positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self- esteem and drawing lines for self- improvement
is a choice, not a rule or a talent. The Good Lord granted us the gift of free will to choose our paths in life.

It is hard to stay tough in life, especially when people, places and problems around you keep pulling you
down. We should have hope and cope as we contend within the battle field of life. We can choose Dart Pin
proof gear and armor suited to guard you against self-esteem whack attacks. Life’s options give us an
infinite array of options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. By wearing bullet proof armor ideally
means ‘Inner’. This is the kind of change which comes voluntarily from within.  Armor or Self Change will
affect us in three ways, which is our attitude, our actions and our aplomb.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who
we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from
inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. 
Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and resolve. So how do you start putting
up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss
an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to
self improvement.


Doyle invites you to find out more on Self-Esteem (Mental Health Category) and related Health

topics by visiting HERE

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