
I always say that as long as you do your best and persist in
your pursuits, there is no such
thing as failure. When Thomas Edison started
out in his pursuit to develop the light bulb
many viewed his endless
attempts as failure; but his continued confidence and creativity
led to the
eventual invention of the electric light bulb.
Whatever you do in life, do your
best and build confidence in your
capacity to cope with adverse circumstances. It would
be a grand thing indeed
if we could just simply wake up in the morning, brush our teeth
and put on our
confidence suit for the day; but for those of us who do not possess a
drawer
full of suitable confidence builders, here are 4 simple strategies that will
help
you build confidence.
1. Accentuate The Positive, Eliminate the Negatives.
Be your own best friend. What do you tell a friend who has
tried something new, whether
or not it turned out well? At least you tried
something new, so that is good for you! Accentuate
the effort it took in doing
something, rather than the final outcome. (You�d do it for your best
friend,
wouldn�t you?) We all have limitations. The key is to accept that you have them
without
dwelling on them.
2. Do Not Be Afraid To Take Some Risks.
When you are about to embark on a new experience, do you
spend your time worrying so
much about the outcome you are not enjoying the
moment? If you look at new things in your
life as a chance to learn something,
it opens up the possibility of you becoming good at that
something. If you
spend your time dreading the outcome, you will turn any opportunity there
might
have been into a failure. We cannot grow when we are frozen with fear. Do not
set
yourself up to fail. If you do, look at number one, again!
3. Use Self-Talk To Keep Assumptions Away.
We all use self-talk. The key is to use it in a way that we
do not form bad thoughts that can
lead to permanent doubts. Catch yourself
using negative self-talk and cancel it with something
positive and not based on
assumptions! Build confidence by not expecting perfection from
yourself at all
times. You can only do your very best at some things. Nobody can do everything
perfectly, so why do you assume that you should be able to?
4. Be Objective In Your Self-Evaluation.
If you always rely on the opinion of others, you will always be wondering what they think! That
does nothing to build confidence - it tears it down, by giving away your personal power to others.
Focus on the real you, inside, to find out how you feel about your own actions, how you have been
doing your job, etc.
You will be developing a strong sense of who you are. It is important to remember that no one can
be self-confident all of the time. In fact, you will build confidence faster and easier once you realize
that most people with low self-esteem or who lack in confidence are that way because of unrealistic
expectations. They expect more from themselves than they do others. A person with low self-esteem
will think nothing about calling him or herself a �stupid idiot.� They would not dream of saying that to
someone else. To build confidence it is a good idea to be your own best friend.
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