

So let�s go straight into how do you stay calm, composed and
maintain self- esteem in a tough
environment? Here are some tips you may want
to consider as a starter guide to self-improvement.
Picture yourself as a Dart Board. Now visualize everyone and
everything else around you may become
Dart Pins, at one point or another. These
dart pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in
ways you won�t
even remember. Do not let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins
should you avoid?
Adverse Work Environment Dart Pin
Beware of work place politics and the �dog-eat-dog� theory
where everyone else is fighting just to get
ahead. This is where
non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your
contributions
even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the
time you are saddled with a heavy work
load without getting much help or
concern from co-workers. Be like West
and stay clear of this mess,
it will ruin your self -esteem. Competition is at
high stakes anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete,
but in an atmosphere of
healthy competition.
People�s Behavior Dart Pins
Backstabbers, bulldog bullies, brown nosers,
complainers, controllers, exploders,
gossip mongers,
naggers, patronizes, scoffers, snipers, and whiners, � all these
kinds of people emit bad vibes for
your self- esteem, as well as to your self-
improvement scheme.
Changing Environment Dart Pin
You cannot be a green bug on a brown field. Changes
challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility,
adaptability and alters the
way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress
but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there
forever, we must be susceptible
to it.
Past Experience Dart Pin
It�s okay to cry and say �ouch!� when we experience pain.
But do not let pain transform itself into fear. It
might grab you by the tail
and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Negative World View Dart Pins
Look at what you are looking at. Do not wrap yourself up
with all the negativities of the world. In building
self- esteem, we must learn
how to make the best out of even the worst situations.
Determination Theory Dart Pins
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a
mixed end product of your inherited traits
(genetics), your upbringing
(psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse,
the
company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If
your father is a failure,
it does not mean you have to be a failure too. Learn
from other people�s experience, so you�ll never
have to encounter the same
mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born
leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being
positive, and staying positive is a
choice. Building self- esteem and drawing lines for self- improvement
is a
choice, not a rule or a talent. The Good Lord granted us the gift of free will
to choose our paths in life.
It is hard to stay tough in life, especially when people, places and problems
around you keep pulling you
down. We should have hope and cope as we contend
within the battle field of life. We can choose Dart Pin
proof gear and armor suited
to guard you against self-esteem whack attacks. Life�s options give us an
infinite array of options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. By wearing
bullet proof armor ideally
means �Inner�. This is the kind of change which
comes voluntarily from within. Armor or
Self Change will
affect us in three ways, which is our attitude, our actions
and our aplomb.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self
improvement if we start to become responsible for who
we are, what we have and
what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire
from
inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our
mission, values and discipline.
Self
esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and resolve. So how do
you start putting
up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be
contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss
an opportunity to compliment.
A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to
self improvement.
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