One of the most important things to have in your relationship is good
communication. There are going to be times in your life when
communicating to your partner could end up saving you a lot of hassle
and sleepless nights on the couch. You have to realize that if you don�t
talk about your differences or issues in a conversational tone, you are
going to end up making things even worse for a bit of time. Things like
that happen way too often in relationships, and it's up to you to put a
stop to it so that the two of you can be happy gain.
How many times
have you had the chance to tell your partner that they were doing
something you didn�t like and it ended up in a heated argument? This
type of thing happens to everyone, and there is no way of telling when
the next big blow out is going to happen. You just have to be prepared
for anything that might be said and figure out a way of getting around
the harsher aspects of that argument the best way that you can. But you
shouldn�t let things sit inside and build up, either.
If you
absolutely need to tell your partner how you feel about something, then
you have to do it in a way that doesn�t cause them to become defensive.
Defensiveness makes a conversation become one sided and that will get
you nowhere fast. You will end up yelling at each other and throwing
blame around like water on a house fire. The only problem is you will
only have a tiny tea cup of water and that fire will
continue
to flame out of control every time you toss more water on it. You have
to be able to stop an argument before it gets to that point.
There
really is no reason for anyone to argue. Most civilized people are able
to have a conversation and point out ways that things could be better
for both parties. You have to think in those terms and realize that most
of the issues you are having with your partner have something to do
with the way you are acting as well. You need to take responsibility for
the things that you are doing wrong and try to resolve them in a way
that makes your partner happy before you start pointing fingers at them.
Everyone
has failings with who they are, and there are a lot of couples that
don�t agree on things in life. This is something that you are just going
to have to accept
and live with if you want your relationship to work out for the best.
But that doesn�t mean you can't bring some things up that you would like
your partner to change and ask them what you could change about
yourself to make things a bit more even. Compromise is a key ingredient
to communication and it's something you are going to find yourself doing
quite a bit of in the future if you want your relationship to work.
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