While
more and more families are supporting their gay members, there are
still quite a few that just refuse to accept the lifestyle that their
relatives are involved in. Ignorance
abounds when it comes to the many blows that are dealt to gay
members of society. Most people still feel that being gay is
something that is chosen, and they refuse to accept the reality that
the majority of gay people were simply born that way, just as
straight people are. Lately, a rather prominent actress stated
publically that she �chose� to be gay, which isn�t helping the
plight of kids that need to come out to their parents. However,
there�s another option for many gay people that don�t get the
support and acceptance they need. It�s rather simple, really. They
find a great place to relocate to.
That�s
right. These people that have failed to receive the love, support and
acceptance from the ones that are SUPPOSED to be offering those
things have chosen, instead, to seek out other areas where they may
be able to find what they need as well as happiness. For instance, a
young man living in a small southern town in the Bible Belt finally
comes out to his parents only to be thrown out of the house right
around the holidays. On
top of that, they refuse to continue paying for his college
tuition unless he renounces being gay. So he lives with various
friends for a couple of years, supporting himself by working as a
cook, and finally decides to just pick a destination and buy a bus
ticket. His destination lands way on the other side of the country.
However, as soon as he steps off the bus, he�s welcomed into the
home of some online gay friends. Within six months, he�s not only
got a great home, but a good job AND is involved with the young man
of his dreams.
That�s
a true story, by the way. He was sad to leave his friends behind but
finally understood that the only way his life was going to move
forward in a better direction was for him to make the necessary
changes. Once he committed to doing that, everything turned around.
His new partner�s family has embraced him and he�s happier than
he�s ever been in his life. He would never have found all of that
if he had remained where he was simply stomping his feet in a mud
puddle.
It�s
not easy to so drastically change your way of life. On the other
hand, it could be one of the best decisions and moves you�ve ever
made in your life. This is especially true if the city you choose to
make your new home is �gay friendly.� There will be many other
like-minded people just waiting to meet you and help to welcome you
into your new life. When you�re in a place where you�re accepted
and can be proud of the person you are, you�ll have found the type
of peace that you�ve never enjoyed before.
By Max Taylor