Typically,
you can tell when you�re in a relationship that�s really going
nowhere, and you can feel when you�re ready to end that
relationship. While it�s always good to know
where you stand, it�s also wise to realize when the time of the
break up is not right. Obviously, breaking up is never going to be
easy, but you can make it even worse by choosing the wrong time to
end a relationship.
For
instance, birthdays are TERRIBLE times to break up with someone. So
if you know that you�re going to end a relationship, please do so
well BEFORE his birthday or well AFTER it. If you choose the day
before, of, or the day after his birthday to break up, it will always
leave a bad feeling with him. Every birthday is going to remind him
that his relationship ended at that time. So, if you can manage it,
time the break up so that it�s a decent amount of time on either
side of his birthday and never, ever make it on the birthday
itself.
Another
awful break up day is Valentine�s Day. This is the day for lovers
and couples to celebrate every year. If you decide to end your
relationship on this day, you run the risk of ruining it for him for
a very long time, if not forever. That�s why knowing when you�re
ready to leave a relationship is a good thing as you can time the
break up for a day that doesn�t mean anything to either of
you.
Holidays
should never be used to end a relationship for many reasons.
Obviously, one of them is that this particular holiday may never be
enjoyable again if the break up is pretty bad. Another reason
is that some people tend to buy expensive and extravagant gifts
during the holidays. If you end your relationship prior to the
holidays, you can save both you and your about to be ex-partner a lot
of money because you most likely won�t be buying gifts for each
other. In addition, the holidays just turn into very sad occasions
when a relationship ends during them. This is true of the days
immediately before and after them.
The
basic rule of thumb is to get your break up out of the way as far
ahead of any special day as possible. If you can�t do that, then
you should try to grin and bear it through the special day and wait
at least a couple of weeks afterward before making the big break. In
this way, you�re saving someone a lot of misery that could follow
him well into the future. You should be kind about the timing of your
break up.
The
exception to this rule is if your about to be ex is cheating on you
and you just found out, or he�s done something even more
horrendous. In cases such as those, he DESERVES to be miserable for
future special days.
By Max Taylor