Be Upfront About The Relationship You Want
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Posted on: 28th Jul 2014
Too many people enter the dating game not fully sure of what they
actually want to get out of it. Granted, most women are hoping to find
Mr. Right so they can get married, settle down and start a family.
However, not all women are looking for that type of relationship. Many
are simply looking for someone that they can have fun with and relate to
on an equal footing. Others only want someone to have a physical
relationship with and aren�t actually interested in being involved with
anyone.
Nothing is wrong with any of those reasons for dating. In
fact, if all people wanted the exact same things in life, this would be a
rather boring world to live in. Everyone is different in their own way
and that�s what makes things interesting. However, if you�re looking for
a particular type of relationship, it�s only fair that you let
potential partners know exactly what you�re looking for. In that way, if
you�re someone that wants the white picket fence, you won�t waste your
time and the time of someone that only wants to date casually. It also
keeps you from getting your feelings hurt.
Also, consider the age
group that you�ll fall into when looking for a great person to date.
Like it or not, there are certain things that each age group is looking
for in the majority. For instance, if you�re in your mid -30s, you�re
probably going to find that there are a lot of divorced people in this
group. They�ve already done the marriage and family thing and will
usually come with some �extras,� such as children. So if you want to
find Mr. Right and settle down but aren�t necessarily looking for a
readymade family, you probably want to get that clear from the outset.
Younger
age groups are still in that phase of just having some fun. They want
to party, take trips and just have fun in general when they�re not
working. The people that fall into this group are typically not looking
for anything truly serious, although they�re starting to understand that
they�ll need to be a bit more particular in their dating partners. It
just depends on which side of 25 they are.
Older groups such as 40,
50 and 60 years old are usually not hoping to start a family, especially
women because by the time they hit 50 they�re going to have to adopt if
they want children. Some men like the idea of being a father later in
life but most are ready to start enjoying the things that having a
career for several years has enabled them to do. They want to travel
extensively and just enjoy life.
Then there�s the group that
contains all ages. These can get a bit dicey because you can have a 45
year old woman dating a 25 year old man and their future plans can be
totally different. On the other hand, they can be very similar in the
present but change drastically in the future. So you need to be careful
with that.
The most important thing is that, no matter what your
age, you�re clear about the things you want in a relationship. Then
there can be no misunderstandings later