Why The Pathetic Struggle When Trying Something Unfamiliar?

TRY SOMETHING NEW! The quiver in my stomach and the stammer in my speech are brought on by an alarm being sent from my brain to every fiber of my being. Questions flood across my consciousness much faster than can be acknowledged.

Precisely why must you do this?, Exactly why should you do this?, What exactly do you know about this?, What makes you imagine you can do this?

So, what is it that prevents a lot of individuals from undertaking something new? I'm not likely unique in the un-eager reaction to a situation untried.

I've seen numbers of articles speaking about fear of failure. The self-help journals are filled with how-to-do-its for removing fear.

However, there's not that many suggestions about occupying the emotional space where fear resides with something different.  It seems to me that something needs to fill that space.

The naming of that stuff, that emotion, that alternative ingredient hasn't been decided definitely just yet. I've heard it called Ego, Pride, Poise, Incentive and more. Somehow, the word Confidence seems to be  highly suitable.

There's not as many articles regarding self-confidence as there are about fear. I presume it's because there's some insufficiency information about that topic. Where does confidence come from? How does a shrinking
individual become confident.

At this stage, I sense that confidence has to be acquired. Of course, I think fear is also learned. It must be the incidents, either positive or unfavorable, that determine whether it's fear or assurance that's being taught.

As adults, we each possess our own technique of dealing with fear and self-assurance. We probablly deal with one or the other, or both, on a daily basis. Would it not be terrific to already have the issue of fear vs. confidence settled so as not to need to have to engage in that mental battle ever again?

Think, for a moment, about delivering the blessing of confidence to children. Can there be any more significant donation made toward a youngster's long term future achievements, even into the adult years, than that of confidence?

Of course, it's up to parents, grandparents or other meaningful adults in a child's life to generate that attitude of confidence in the youngster. Parenting tools can be supplied that support parents in child self-confidence building.

One such tool, recently introduced, is "I'm So Proud Of", a children's book that functions in several different ways to help parents to help children create a positive picture of themselves. Basically, it's a reward system that creates good memories and allows the "I"m So Proud Of" book to become a cherished memento.

The book is a durable paperback that's covered with vivid sketches and inspirational sayings on the external and on the internal pages. This alone provides incentive for a child to become the very best they can be.

The notepad which comes with the book is how the child knows that he is special and loved. The parent jots a note about the effort the child has made and just how much it was valued.

The notes, left setting around the household, are found by the little one and posted to the pages of his/her "I'm So Proud Of" book. This seems to be an excellent method for building self-confidence and for inspiring a child to maintain effort to perform well in daily undertakings.

A much better, and comprehensive, description of the "I'm So Proud Of" package is found at
http://www.urproud.com/keyword.html. It seems to be affordable just now with a dollar discunt authorized for applying a code - "confidence" - on the check-out page. And presently, there's no delivery costs.

It appears to me when reviewing the "I'm So Proud Of" program that this could be the perfect present to any child and the adults who deal with children. I also see the possibility of a great fundraising event using this package.

Those of us who are dealing with children every day can make use of all of the assistance there is to be had. The "I'm So Proud Of" package produces with it many benefits. Kids become much more self-confident and grownups discover the bond between themselves and children growing stronger.

Thanks for reading. I do hope the information has been useful.  And, thank you for comments.

Dorothy Allen, The Maven Of Social Influence
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